Kamala Murphey, a Divine Healer, is on a mission to have women lit up inside, loving themselves and sharing their gifts with joy and enthusiasm through her work at LoveBeingYou.com. Kamala has Master’s degrees in Counseling and Theology.
Sometimes in life, circumstances come into play that require a significant change in us: in our behaviors or thoughts or attitudes. Sometimes we make the decisions to shift ourselves and sometimes life demands the shift of us. Sometimes we can roll with the changes we notice and sometimes we choose to ignore the signals or fight the shift and wind up feeling like you’ve been hit with a two-by-four.
In my case, I made the decision to do things differently after I’d been smacked around a bit!
I’d had a few major disappointments in a row and they’d hit me hard. I felt ashamed and disheartened and totally stuck in the pain and inertia. From experience, I knew I was headed for a serious bout of depression if I didn’t figure out a way to do things differently.
To my relief, my coach suggested I watch a movie called “The Mission.” “There’s a scene in the movie you need to see,” he said, “and you’ll know it when you see it.” He was right – that one scene struck me to the core.
For years, I’d been carrying around a ton of shame and guilt about stuff I desperately wished I’d done differently and disappointment about all the things I thought I’d failed at. Despite “knowing better” and having accomplished quite a bit in my life, it was never good enough. I was almost magnetized to focus on my failures and shortcomings. Although I tried to be cheery and positive, inside I was mired in shame and self-disgust.
I realize that making this shift is a lot like developing a muscle – you’ve got to keep at it and not give up!
The scene in the movie gave me a new insight about lugging around the burden of shame and guilt. As I let the message sink in, I began to let go of some of the burden. I was being set free from the painful and debilitating load I’d been dragging around with me for so long! I was coming to love and appreciate myself – and I felt a ton lighter!
I’d like to say the shift was permanent and I never felt loaded down again, but I can’t. Periodically, I get discouraged and fall back into negative thinking. But now, I recognize that I am not tied to shame any longer. I have tools (and that fabulous image from the movie) to help me. I realize that making this shift is a lot like developing a muscle – you’ve got to keep at it and not give up!
Kamala’s Advice for Your Shifted Journey
If you are considering or in the process of a life shift…know that there will be times you want to give up, to throw in the towel. Remember, this too shall pass!
The thing that was most helpful to me during my own shift was…having a strong image to hold on to that helped me to remember what I was striving for.
My daily practice that helps me to remain shifted is…a healing and releasing meditation that helps me unhook from struggle and worry, while bringing me back to my connection with God.
I challenge you to…take a leap into the shift in your life – embrace it and allow yourself to feel the energy of the change.