Quiana Murray shows Bold Biz Ladies how to quickly grow their profitable dream business. Using her experience owning 5 businesses, Quiana helps women avoid costly business mistakes. You can find Quiana at www.ohsobold.com.
Years ago I worked for a large international company. My enthusiasm and excitement for this position quickly ended when it became evident I had to work 12-hour days just to keep up with the workload. I spent my days, nights, and weekends chained to a desk doing work I did not enjoy.
To top it off my marriage was failing and my children never got to see me. I was depressed, stressed out, and my health began to fade. I knew I had to do something but being an optimist, I believed I could change the company culture and make a difference.
Eventually my doctor prescribed muscle relaxers which I was required to take each night in order to fall asleep. You see, the stress from this job literally tensed me up so much I could not sleep. I began to cry every night and spent my entire weekends dreading Mondays.
One day I was in my office, door closed, trying to burn the midnight oil and it hit me – if I died tomorrow, they’d just find another poor soul to do this job. Further I realized if I died tomorrow I would have spent 2 years miserable.
In that moment I stopped working, packed my things, and went home. I hadn’t decided what I was going to do. I just knew, I was no longer going to work this hard at work and give my family the leftovers.
My shift happened right when it should have and I could not be happier!
That night, I slept great. I didn’t even need my medicine. The next day I woke up, called in sick (mental health day) and spent the entire day home with my family. It was great!
The following day I woke up as usual and went into the office. I decided no matter what happened that day; I would just trust it would all work out. True to form, the workload was insane.
I remember sitting in a meeting and hearing how I was getting another account on top of my already insane account load. This time, I wasn’t upset. I got up, walked into my office, closed my door, and wrote my resignation letter.
Before I could fall into the trap of worry, doubt, or fear, I sent it to my management team. I felt beyond awesome. I gave them adequate time to find a replacement and vowed until my last day I would work my standard 8 hours.
Three weeks later, I left with no job lined up but many many ideas. It’s been 4 years since I left that job and I could not be happier. I eventually found another job I loved, re-launched my business, and my relationships are greatly improved.
Today, I get to spend tons of time with my family, do work I enjoy, and have excellent health. My shift happened right when it should have and I could not be happier! It’s easy to wish a shift had happened sooner, but the perfect storm of events leading up to my shift made the journey so much more exciting! Even on those days when I feel a tinge of doubt creep in, I refocus but I never look back.
Quiana’s Advice For Your Shifted Journey
If you are considering or in the process of a life shift… allow the process to happen, don’t be concerned with what others think. You and only you can claim your shift!
The thing that was most helpful to me during my own shift was…detaching. I stopped people-pleasing, owned my ‘No’, and stood firm in my decisions, even the imperfect ones.
My daily practice that helps me to remain shifted is… surrounding myself with positive people. Drama, envy, and negativity steal not only your joy but the joy of those around you, I keep my circle filled with people who do not default to those characteristics.
I challenge you to… do what’s scary. Yes, you’re unsure, we all are during (and many times after) our shift. If you continue to play it safe, you will continue to get what you already have. If you want more or different, you have to think, act, and overall be different.
– Quiana Murray